Game – Back to the Basics

We haven’t done a major post on the game in quite some time but a lot of questions have come in that seem to repeat: 1) How do I open a girl, 2) what do I do if a girl I am with gets hit on, 3) Indirect versus Direct, and a few others. This is an open ended post so lets just jump in.

1) How Do I Open a Girl? If you are looking for specific lines to use or specific lines to text to a woman, forget about it and report back to the beginning stages of the game. Anyone who has been around for more than a few years in the game knows the truth:

“It is not about what you say but how you say it and who says it“

Lets draw a picture here.

Guy 1: Baggy jeans. FUBU sweater on. Air Jordans that do not fit. Chain hanging from his back pocket. Backward hat on.

Guy 2: Suit, tie with a tie bar, brown brouges shoes that match his belt, flattering colors, shaved, well groomed.

Both men approach the same woman during the day in public with the following line:

“That is a pretty cute purse where did you get it?”

Girl response to guy 1? She runs. She literally runs. Why? She thought she was going to be straight up robbed.

Girl response to guy 2? She smiles. Oh, umm (stutter) I don’t know i think XXX but my sister got it for me last week for XXX.

Well this is quite obvious for anyone who has been around awhile. People will make snap judgements about your value upon hello. Guy 2 will have significantly more success than Guy 1. That makes sense but what if they looked exactly the same?

Guy 1 – Stutters and fumbles like a young nervous boy

Guy 2 – Strong masculine voice. Direct.

Who is going to command more positive reads from women? You already know, guy number 2.

Moral of the Story? The point is clear. If you are looking for a specific line, you can simply stop and just use an assumption opener. That is all you need. Every good “opener” is an assumption about someone you just met that is 1) not insulting, 2) not sexual and 3) not degrading. That’s it. You can use the assumption opener in a night club, during the day at the gym, at the park, or even at the grocery store. Simply make an assumption. Want to know some lines that have worked that have actually lead to lays? Sure.

“Hey are you a tourist from XXX?” (walking down the street)

“Are you from XX city I saw that watch at XX store?” (grocery store)

“You must love smartphones because that’s the new iPhone 5s isn’t it?” (on the subway)

“You must be training for the high jump” (at the gym)

As soon as you make an assumption that is not insulting, it can even be somewhat flattering if you assume she is wearing a gucci purse for example, but at the end she will immediately wonder “why is he asking me this”. This is the best way to immediately spark a conversation for a beginner.

2) What Do I Do About Jealousy: In a phrase… Jealousy is a female trait. Women try to create drama/emotional roller coasters and it is your job to remain emotionally stable. Think about it like this. If you were a billionaire famous movie star and a man attempts to hit on your girlfriend are you worried? No.

In fact you should have the reverse reaction of average men. Average men fail at everything so lets do the opposite. Average man will get upset and “get up in your grill” asking why you’re hitting on “his girl”.

Stop.

Do the reverse. If a handsome well dressed man attempts to hit on your girl, simply sit back smile and drink your dry martini as he attempts to swoop in. Once he gives it a go, simply take your girl and move on. That simple. The only time you need to worry is when she flirts back. If she flirts with him, well you need to go ahead and end the interaction.

“Here you go babe (hand her over to him). She likes her hair pulled hard and don’t forget to bite her neck hard”

Walk away and she’ll immediately go back to you. If she doesn’t? Her loss anyway.

3) Indirect vs. Direct Game: Pretty simple here guys. This is going to make a few people upset but here is the truth. Indirect game is for people with average value as men and direct game is for men with high value.

Before people chime in and get upset by this, again run the same scenarios listed in part one. “It is not what you say but who says it and how he says it.

Picture this. Brad Pitt walks into a grocery store for one reason or another. People already notice. He walks up to an attractive woman and says…. “Excuse me do you know what time this place closes?”

Okay stop laughing. Why is this hilarious? It is hilarious because it does not make sense and is not congruent at all. Replace this with “You look nice today, where did you get your outfit from”

Now it makes sense.

If you want to try this theory out in practice you can feel free to do so. Start first by having two outfits, one being your all out attire. Perfectly fitting suit, perfect shirt, nice watch, shoes etc. Try to go direct and then try to go indirect. Report back and your numbers by going direct will be higher.

Now reverse the game. Wear relatively nice clothes. Crisp jeans, a decent blazer and a v-neck. Try to go direct and then try to go indirect. Report back and your numbers by going indirect will be higher.

This makes a lot of sense doesn’t it? This is also why indirect is going to work for people in the 20-29 years old age range while dressing to perfection and going direct will work better for people in the 30+ age range. Most men in their 20s simply don’t have the resources/value to go direct yet. So, for the vast majority of our readers, go ahead and use indirect and use a simple assumption opener.

4) Concluding Comments: This was a quick high level post and we suggest everyone focuses in on evolving their game. The best way to continue down the correct path is to increase your value as a man.You will have less worries with regards to “text game”, “being cock blocked by an app” and other such nonsense. If push comes to shove ask yourself, would Muhammad Ali do this? If not, you probably shouldn’t either.